NEW! Download/Listen to Raheem DeVaughn's Mr. February aka March Madness

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sloppy love jingle, pt 1 (Travis McCoy)

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From the second she shimmied in
I was intrigued by her essence
And my first instincts to make sure that my presence was felt
Simple and plain
I'm probably jumping the train
But all I could see was my name engraved on her belt
Hit the pause button
Damn!
I don't even know this girl
And I'm already practicing my sweet-nothings
But that's a classic trait of a soft-spoken, heart-broken, fellow like my self best believe ("pussy!!")
I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve
But that night the Jagermeister had my sleeves rolled up
Wait a minute, hold up
I think she caught me grillin' now I'm spillin' my drink ("don't look, don't look")
I knew our feelings were in sync so now she gave me the wink
The only problem is, I'm not your ordinary, average Romeo
A Cyrano de Bergerac ("shut the fuck up...")
In fact, I remember back in fifth grade
I tried to read the book of love, but sadly
The introduction didn't grab me
So I left it on the shelf and kept moving
Assuming that this planet rotates
I'll just procrastinate until the day I bump into my soulmate
Who would've thunk I would be pissy ass drunk when time came for collision
So I made the decision to just keep my composure ("cool, cool")
Until she started getting closer
And then I felt this weird feeling underneath my left shoulder, and then I
Slipped, tripped, busted my lip and fell in love
The minute that she stepped in the door
The type of girl I'd have to make a couple mix tapes for
To me she equaled MC squared and everything else was mathematics
I never took the time to practice

- Travis McCoy

candy girl, you are my world...

I know I can't be alone when I say this: I really hate sweet talk.

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.. Don't try to butter me up with little flattering/"cute"/cheesy phrases. Especially if you already have me. At least not all the time. It loses it's appeal/effect if you do it all the time & just starts to make me a little annoyed. I don't want to sound ungrateful - sweet lines are very nice, when timed correctly. But in the middle of a conversation? No me gusta. I don't want you to talk to me like I'm some girl you're trying to get at. I want you to talk to me like I'm your best friend, because that's what I want to be.

Also, I can't stand pet names. Maybe I'll change when I get older, but for the time being I don't want to be called: sweetheart, baby (I'm an adult...), pookie, or honey.

Maybe I'm just being cranky...


But for real though, too much affection = bad. If you really want me to know that you care I'd rather hear it in a more eloquent & thoughtful way. More importantly, I'd rather that you SHOW it.

And PDA is not the way. Why would you be kissing up on someone when you're hanging out with a group of friends?

Mega womp.


"Candy Girl" by New Edition from the album Candy Girl, 1983.



(A note: nothing sparked this, I just randomly remembered how much I dislike stuff like that!!)

INTERVIEW & PERFORMANCE: Trey Songz on The Monique Show (1/12/10)

Everybody knows I'm in love with (ahem, my boyfriend...) Trey Songz. For real though, I talk about him all the time. It's at the point where I annoy people & cause them to ignore me until I stop. I usually don't have these sort of celebrity crushes. Normally, I think they're pretty stupid. But I'm very infatuated with Mr. Neverson (what the rest of y'all need to be calling him). I wasn't feeling the braids back in the I Gotta Make It days, but I did recognize his talent & good looks. I'll admit though, that I didn't really get into him until last year. Now that he cut off the braids, got his grown-man on, and making fly remixes... I'm borderline head over heels.


Why? Well:
1) he's from VA ("...the prince, he rep 2 up 2 down" - I have a natural love for musicians from my state)
2) he's in his 20's (5 years & a few months older than me... there's just something about older men!)
3) he's very talented/charming/attractive/etc.



The performance of "Invented Sex" and the interview (about 11 minutes - worth it though!) with Monique after the break!

one in a million

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"One In A Million" by Aaliyah, from the album One In A Million, 1996.





A note: This isn't me being fanciful or dreaming about love.. or being sappy or anything (I mean, if I wanted to do/be all of those things, of course that would be fine. BUT! That's not what this is!) I couldn't sleep last night & this came to mind. It might not be fitting for you... or maybe you figured this all out ages ago and are wondering why I'm just now realizing. Well, to both of those I say: *this might not be for all but it's definitely the way for me, and *I don't think I'm just now realizing, but I do think I'm finally able to give it more thought.


People are always talking about seeking their soulmates and finding their perfect matches. Most people have at least some sort of a list of criteria for people to be with -- whether it be excruciatingly detailed or highly simplified. I wonder if God has someone perfect picked out for me (and for everyone, for that matter). By perfect, I mean someone who we'll meet and get to know and will gradually be able to check off every box on our lists. Is there one person with everything for us? How would we be able to find him or her, considering the billions of people on the Earth? Now, I know the world is a lot smaller & a lot more connected than it used to be, but it still seems like a near-impossible feat to find "the one."

Maybe what we consider "perfect for us" isn't really want God has planned. Maybe He has someone saved up who is exactly what we need. We just need to wise up, open our eyes, and realize what it is we need before we miss the right one... or before we choose the wrong one.

How do we figure out what it is we really need (not just in love, but in life)? Self reflection, practice, and prayer.

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"Choosey Lover" by the Isley Brothers, from the album Between The Sheets, 1983.



"Choosey Lover (Old School/New School) by Aaliyah, from the album One In A Million, 1996.

90s Music: Aaliyah, Donell Jones, TLC

You should know these! Great cds.




"A Girl Like You" by Aaliyah, from the album One in a Million, 1996.





"This Luv" by Donell Jones, from the album Where I Wanna Be, 1999.




"Diggin On You" by TLC, from the album Crazysexycool, 1994.

New Video: Sade - Soldier of Love

Yayyyyyyyyyy :)

The group (w/ lead singer Sade Adu).

“I only make records when I feel I have something to say. I'm not interested in releasing music just for the sake of selling something. Sade is not a brand.” - Sade

Love it.



Source: okayplayer.

this. is. no. ordinary love... Sade Sizzle Reel

Can't wait for the new album.
Sade can get my money (... and that means a lot).

Soldier of Love is scheduled to be released February 8, 2010 :)

guess who loves you more?

I wish it was more socially acceptable here to kiss people on the cheek.


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Cheek kisses are so sweet. And foreheard kisses too, for that matter. But I think I'd be labeled A) a creep, or B) extra, if I started employing them. Sure, I can use them with adults at church I haven't seen in a long time. But I can't very well go around kissing my male friends all the time without some belief that there's more to it than there really is.

Dang social boundaries... why do you always have to hold me back??

"don't be afraid to let your light shine on the world..." : Why We Need the 4 AM Feeling ALL DAY LONG

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I have quite possibly the worst sleeping schedule ever. I need to get this under control before the semester starts... Luckily, I have 2 more weeks until I leave!

I'm not really sure what I want to say or if I should have even started this. It's 4 AM and I'm sitting here listening to music and talking nonsense, with a million thoughts. Somehow, I feel really peaceful. The reason? A combination of things: smooth music, a quiet house, a lack of immediate worries, no stress. That's exactly why I stay up so late and have developed such a horrific schedule -- most people are sleeping at this time, so there are less distractions (the necessary AND the unnecessary ones) and I'm able to just... be. This is the realest time of day. If you ever want to talk to me about something serious and need to hear the complete and total truth, hit me up for a lengthy conversation at 4 or 5 AM. It's so much easier to focus on one thing in the wee hours of the morning -- there's no facebook activity to feel like you have to keep up with (shhh.. maybe that's just me...), no one hovering over you & making you feel bad for not getting work done. I could sit here for hours doing whatever I want: writing, reading magazines, exploring interesting pictures on Flickr, reading blogs, finding new music, fantasizing about future successes and travel opporunities, whatever.

This realness needs to transcend 4 AM and persist at all 24 hours of the day. I'm not saying that we need to completely ignore our responsibilities and the beckoning of society. But we gotta find a way to keep the "4 AM Feeling" around during the day and to fit it into those necessary and unnecessary distractions of life. If you want to paint, find time to do that. If you want to learn a new language, make it happen. If you want to create music, go for it. Don't hide behind 4 AM, when no one can see or hear you. Don't be afraid to do something because of what everyone else will say about it -- not everything we do has to be "productive" in a conventional sense. We don't always have to be worrying about making money and doing what people expect of us. If you have something you want to do... then do it. The whole world needs light, so don't be afraid to let yours shine bright at all hours.



"Forever is to strive for a place of endearment forever,
Forever is what I leave...
My I-self contribution.
Damn, what I'm gon' leave?

... I leave my one and only grain of spiritual sand to universal scales of humanity, all humanity."

New Video: Mos Def - History ft. Talib Kweli + A Cool 0:48 - "Parkour Motion Reel" Video

:) This makes me happy.

From The Ecstatic, 2009.
"History", Mos Def & Talib Kweli

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"Illustrated with technical pen,frame by frame. I admit it might not be the best, or the quality isn't perfect, just a shot at animating the old flip book whatever-you-call-it way. =D"

The coolest 48 seconds.

New Video: Trey Songz - Say Aah ft. Fabolous

Sampled: Don't Say Goodnight by the Isley Brothers

Both of these are really great songs! Love it when good songs are creatively worked into other good songs.



Original: Don't Say Goodnight (Isley Brothers)





"New": So Far to Go (Common ft. D'Angelo)

Song You Should Know: "Don't Stop the Music"

Yarbrough & Peoples, "Don't Stop the Music" [yes... before Rihanna]
1981.

2010 Official!!!!

Great album... 7x platinum? Please get this.




Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!!
If you made resolutions, I wish you luck in keeping them. Or at least keeping them until March :) ... I didn't make any cuz I've never really been into the tradition of making resolutions at the beginning of a new year... BUT, I do have high hopes for 2010, and more importantly, this new decade. This year is going to be a positive year full of hard work and accomplishment that will carry on for many years to come! :)

In December 2019, you should check out some of those commemorative lists that every website/magazine/newspaper likes to do... cuz I'm gonna be on one. Just you wait and see!!!!!


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